Struggling from my daily commute, schoolwork, and peer pressure all come to me, especially right now when I discover that one of my best friends has gotten into a relationship without my knowledge. It’s not that I haven’t talked to her in days, it’s how she said it that I felt doubtful about. I’m not mad or jealous or anything to her, it’s to be honest, I’m struggling to be with somebody. I travel at least twice a week from where I live in Novato (shown with a red dot) all the way to San Francisco, and every time I commute, I just do nothing but sit, read, play, or sleep. Pretty much uneventful because my commute is long enough that I could just ride a bus downtown and go back after a few minutes from my university.
However, those sacrifices turn into struggles for me, not only because I live away from a multicultural city that is packed with activity, but also I’ve chosen a life to travel alone and be smart instead of socializing much. The consequences of living in a far-flung suburb for me are enormous:
- Supposedly a half-hour to 45-minute drive to my school in San Francisco takes about two hours by bus, forcing me to watch my time to make sure I get the buses on schedule
- There’s not much activity going on in my neighborhood (except for just one block party per year), making me isolated from the rest of the community as a whole
- My location, being about 3 miles south of downtown Novato and 5 miles north of downtown San Rafael, requires me to drive or take transit just to go there
- The nearest gathering place requires me to walk 15 minutes from home over empty, monotonous terrain of cookie-cutter houses and a flat road, something that does not entice me
- Even though my place is generally peaceful, I believe that my overall look is that my community is lifeless, having no soul of its own because all gathering places are spread out
- My current location limits me to find friends and find the special someone I want to be with, and being a person without a car, it provides an additional challenge of finding them close to a transit line
I don’t want you to sympathize with me on my situation, but I would like to hear ideas and suggestions to break my barrier of living in a suburb to find the people I want to spend time with, given the conditions I listed above. I feel like I struggle with myself too much, but reality sets in for me, and hopefully, you can help me break the odds and find the persons I want to hang around with.